Where Is God When It Hurts? By Community Moms




Today our Community Moms come together and wrap their loving words around a Mom who is desperately seeking answers.


Dear Community Moms,

I know there is a God.  But where is He when it hurts?  My life is broken and I’m shaking.  Loved ones around me don’t understand and they really don’t know how to help.  Where is God when it hurts?  Anonymous



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Dear Friend,

If I am to be completely honest in my response, when my life was as you have described – broken, shaken, hurting – There was not much that someone could say to me that helped, though they meant well. (Please give those around you grace, knowing that they really are probably doing the best they can. They probably don’t really know what to say or do.)

In saying that, hopefully I can offer some encouragement from my own experience.

Though it may seem like God is not there – He is. I have learned God is always in the mix, especially when things looked the worst. This ‘trial’ will increase your faith and endurance. If I didn’t experience the pain, loss, hurts and trials that I went through, I would not be today who I am in Christ. God can transform even our most dire situations, and allow them to be used for something good.

“And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them.” (Romans 8:28, NLT)

Though it might hurt now, God knows what He is doing. Healing takes time, but He promised that He would heal our broken hearts and bandage our wounds (Psalm 147:3). Wait on the Lord; He will strengthen your heart (Psalm 27:14). Better is the end of a thing, than the beginning (Ecclesiastes 7:8).

Praying for you!

Angel  www.vision61.com




Dear Sweet Daughter of the Most High King,

Life can be so hard at times. In those moments it can be easy to forget who we are. Above all else, you were knit together by a creator who knows your name (Isaiah 43:1), knows every hair on your head (Matthew 10:30), has a hope and a future planned for you (Jeremiah 29:11), and a purpose for your life which only you can fulfill (Romans 12:4-8). Abba Father loves you completely. In dark times it can be hard to really trust that though.

Years ago, my husband and I traveled from Ohio to Nevada by train. It was a long, tiring, and beautiful journey. When we traveled through the Colorado Rockies, there were tunnels cut out of the huge rock mountains.  In the moments that our train slowly chugged through those tunnels, the light was dim and the moments seemed to drag on. Even though we could not see the engineer, we trusted that he would guide the train out of that dark tunnel and into the light. We had to believe.

God has got this, sweet one. He will guide you through whatever darkness you’re in, even though you cannot see Him. Trust in His promises. Believe in His Word. He has plans for you, remember? He will guide you to people who will extend His love and encourage you in the midst of the darkness. Trust in His provisions.

He will not leave you or forsake you (Deuteronomy 3:16). Hold on to Him, pray, and trust His word. You are so loved by your Father.

I am praying for you, sweet sister.

Brandy Hynes    http://www.brandyhynes.com




Oh Dear One, I can hear the pain and despair in your words. And God feels them too. God is right there beside you, feeling your pain (Hebrews 4:15), and catching your every tear (Psalm 56:8). He has never left you, and will never turn His back on you (Deuteronomy 31:6). It can be so very difficult for others to understand when they haven’t experienced the same pain as you. But God does understand and He promises that when you go through hard times, He will be there with you and He won’t let them overtake you (Isaiah 43:2). When you are hurting and wondering where God is, tell Him. Keep pressing in, and searching for Him. He promises that when we seek Him, we will find Him when we search for Him with our whole heart (Jeremiah 29:13).


God knew we would all go through difficult times. He told us to expect it. “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world” (John 16:33 NIV). He hasn’t deserted us. Instead, He invites us in during the hard times. He wants us to lean in, to call on Him, to rely on Him to help get through the hard times, and to exchange our anxiety, worry, and angst for the peace that He offers. When loved ones don’t know how to help, God does. He sees the entire picture, He has all the answers, and He’s working in the details of your situation even now. He is working in every detail, and promises to work ALL things together for our good (Romans 8:28). The hard part is that it requires that we trust Him—even when we cannot see, even when we do not understand. He is for you and His plans for you are good, and they include a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11).

Dr. Michelle Bengtson    http://www.DrMichelleBengtson.com


Perhaps you would like to share words of encouragement in the comment section.


3 thoughts on “Where Is God When It Hurts? By Community Moms

  1. Oh Sister,

    There are no words to encompass grief. Many will try to comfort you and they will fail in their attempts. When you feel as though God is missing, you’re training your heart and eyes not to look for Him. Pain in a human emotion and it is hard to feel God in the middle of it because He is peace in the midst of the storm.
    During this time, train yourself to look for Him.
    Two years ago, I lost my baby brother and father within four months of one another. I was certain God had packed up and moved on from my life. It wasn’t until I started searching out His goodness, that I actually found him. Look for the little things, it’s where He places himself the deepest.

    Hugs and love to you,


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  2. Hi, my friend. A couple of thoughts came to mind as I read your words and felt your pain. While I agree with the thoughts the other women have shared, it’s also important to look at basic things in our lives when we’re feeling so low. For example, how much sleep are you getting at night? How’s your diet? Are you getting fresh air and exercise? Those things can have a huge bearing on our ability to handle stress, disappointment, etc.

    No one here knows the specifics of your circumstances so it’s not possible to fully address your feelings. But rest assured that it’s totally okay to seek insights from a trained counselor. I grew up in an environment that implied Christians should be able to pull up their bootstraps and be strong, and that only the weak sought counselling. Well, I’ve concluded that approach is not constructive. When I’m feeling at a loss, I talk to someone who’s trained to listen and give godly counsel, and wow–what a tremendous difference it’s made for me.

    Know you are loved, my friend.


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