Today is a special post put together by myself and four other moms from our Community Writing Team. We come together to support Moms that are pregnant or have a newborn.
We will start out with a Mom sharing a concern and we will share three supportive responses that are filled with encouragement from Moms who understand.
For the last 5 years, I have been learning how to be a wife and a mother all at once. I have a wonderful supportive husband who would do anything to make me happy and here in a few months our family of 4 will become a family of 5 (plus 4 furry family members)! Logan is 4, Lucy is almost 2, and Levi will be here in January. Some people think my hands are full and yes it’s true, my hands are full but my heart is fuller. Although my heart is full, I’m overwhelmed nonetheless.
How can I be so overwhelmed when I am so blessed?
The Lord taught me how to love. I didn’t know how to love my husband until I put the Lord above my husband. The same thing is true for my children. Mommy can’t give them what they need until she spends time with the only one who can supply it. I am nothing without Him.
I already feel like I am being pulled in a million directions, how will I find time to seek the Lord when the new baby arrives?
Supportive Response From Lindsay
As a mom to a strong willed and energetic 2 year old, and a sweet, but ravenous 7 week old, my days are beautiful and really, really hard. My morning can go from the three of us crowded in one corner of the couch, sleepily cuddling, to mopping a puddle of pee as the infant wales for more milk.
In one day, I can feel like my heart is so full its about to burst, to feeling like God has given me more than I can bear.
But then I realize, He has given me more than I can bear:
“Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.”
We can be certain that God will give us more than we can handle- because He wants to help us with our burdens.
We all know that as new moms restfulness is what we yearn for. But just as we grab small pocketfuls of time to grab a quick nap, we must also find those small fleeting moments to turn to Him for help and rest.
Sometimes this even means stealing opportunities to be in conversation with God while I wash dishes, bathe my daughter, or drive from one commitment to the next. When I want to turn to Facebook or mindless TV for my rest, I discipline myself to open the word.
These days I need to be more intentional about my time, but as God challenges me to do more, I find I can accomplish more in Him— and somehow despite the busyness of motherhood, He continues to give me abundant rest.
Supportive Response From Shannon
I know there are many of you out there…and I know you probably look at me, a pregnant mama with 6 children running around me, and wonder How in the world does she do it, when I am struggling with my two?
Let me start by saying I DO NOT have more patience than you, or some top secret methods. I was once exactly where you are, I remember being pregnant with my second and meeting someone who was pregnant with her 4th or 5th (and she talked of wanting more) I thought she was CRAZY! And now here I am!
Adding a third child does change the dynamics quite a bit! You only have two hands! There are definitely times when it will be hard, when all three will need you at once, it will get overwhelming…especially if they are all fairly young…BUT I am here to tell you as someone who has been there/done that: YOU CAN DO IT. (and by the way you are not doing it alone, trust in God to get you through when you are struggling with the juggling act!) You will find your groove, it may take a little bit of time, maybe some trial and error, but it will happen.
You are worried and stressing about it now but when the time comes you will just do what needs done, you will love each of your babies, you will treasure the calm precious moments when they come, and you will care for them as best you can. Honestly you will just figure it out as you go and one day you will wake up and realize that you did it, you got this, and even though it wasn’t/isn’t always easy, it’s sooo worth it.
Pray a lot! Don’t be too hard on yourself. Try to make quiet time a priority, not just for the kids, but for you. Most importantly, enjoy it…having a happy and thankful heart while changing diapers, doing dishes, and referring fights isn’t always our first response but having that joyful perspective can make a huge difference in how we are able to handle things as well as the atmosphere of our home.
Good luck, mama! You were made for this!
Thank you for coming by today. Please share any supportive insight you have for Moms with Newborns. Love to read your comments.
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