Today is a special post put together by myself and four other moms from our Community Writing Team. We come together to support Moms that are pregnant or have a newborn.
We will start out with a Mom sharing a concern and we will share three supportive responses that are filled with encouragement from Moms who understand.
For the last 5 years, I have been learning how to be a wife and a mother all at once. I have a wonderful supportive husband who would do anything to make me happy and here in a few months our family of 4 will become a family of 5 (plus 4 furry family members)! Logan is 4, Lucy is almost 2, and Levi will be here in January. Some people think my hands are full and yes it’s true, my hands are full but my heart is fuller. Although my heart is full, I’m overwhelmed nonetheless.
How can I be so overwhelmed when I am so blessed?
The Lord taught me how to love. I didn’t know how to love my husband until I put the Lord above my husband. The same thing is true for my children. Mommy can’t give them what they need until she spends time with the only one who can supply it. I am nothing without Him.
I already feel like I am being pulled in a million directions, how will I find time to seek the Lord when the new baby arrives?
Supportive Response From Lindsay
As a mom to a strong willed and energetic 2 year old, and a sweet, but ravenous 7 week old, my days are beautiful and really, really hard. My morning can go from the three of us crowded in one corner of the couch, sleepily cuddling, to mopping a puddle of pee as the infant wales for more milk.
In one day, I can feel like my heart is so full its about to burst, to feeling like God has given me more than I can bear.
But then I realize, He has given me more than I can bear:
“Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.”
We can be certain that God will give us more than we can handle- because He wants to help us with our burdens.
We all know that as new moms restfulness is what we yearn for. But just as we grab small pocketfuls of time to grab a quick nap, we must also find those small fleeting moments to turn to Him for help and rest.
Sometimes this even means stealing opportunities to be in conversation with God while I wash dishes, bathe my daughter, or drive from one commitment to the next. When I want to turn to Facebook or mindless TV for my rest, I discipline myself to open the word.
These days I need to be more intentional about my time, but as God challenges me to do more, I find I can accomplish more in Him— and somehow despite the busyness of motherhood, He continues to give me abundant rest.
Supportive Response From Shannon
I know there are many of you out there…and I know you probably look at me, a pregnant mama with 6 children running around me, and wonder How in the world does she do it, when I am struggling with my two?
Let me start by saying I DO NOT have more patience than you, or some top secret methods. I was once exactly where you are, I remember being pregnant with my second and meeting someone who was pregnant with her 4th or 5th (and she talked of wanting more) I thought she was CRAZY! And now here I am!
Adding a third child does change the dynamics quite a bit! You only have two hands! There are definitely times when it will be hard, when all three will need you at once, it will get overwhelming…especially if they are all fairly young…BUT I am here to tell you as someone who has been there/done that: YOU CAN DO IT. (and by the way you are not doing it alone, trust in God to get you through when you are struggling with the juggling act!) You will find your groove, it may take a little bit of time, maybe some trial and error, but it will happen.
You are worried and stressing about it now but when the time comes you will just do what needs done, you will love each of your babies, you will treasure the calm precious moments when they come, and you will care for them as best you can. Honestly you will just figure it out as you go and one day you will wake up and realize that you did it, you got this, and even though it wasn’t/isn’t always easy, it’s sooo worth it.
Pray a lot! Don’t be too hard on yourself. Try to make quiet time a priority, not just for the kids, but for you. Most importantly, enjoy it…having a happy and thankful heart while changing diapers, doing dishes, and referring fights isn’t always our first response but having that joyful perspective can make a huge difference in how we are able to handle things as well as the atmosphere of our home.
Good luck, mama! You were made for this!
Supportive Response From Kortney
It wasn’t too long ago that I had only two kids. I remember when I became pregnant with my third child that I distinctly told a friend “I’m having this third child by faith.” What does that mean? Well, my hands were already full. I didn’t know how I would handle another pair of feet running around the house. I could feel my control slipping away.
When my son was born, having a third child did overwhelm me. I could no longer depend on my own strength. I had to put my faith firmly in Christ, that He would help me every day. God was using my three kids to help me to depend on Him in a way I never had before. I was reminded of the story of the widow and Elijah. There was a season of no rain in the land of Israel. This caused a great famine in the land. Elijah the prophet came to a widow and asked her for some food. But she only had a little left. Here is what she said to Elijah: “I don’t have any bread-only a handful of flour in a jar and a little oil in a jug. I am gathering a few sticks to take home and make a meal for myself and my son, that we may eat it-and die.” Her and her son were going to die. She would have died and not been able to provide for her and her son. Except God had a different plan. This is what God said to her through the prophet Elijah and what happened afterward: “The jar of flour will not be used up and the jug of oil will not run dry until the day the Lord gives rain on the land…..So there was food every day for Elijah and for the woman and her family” I Kings 17:14-15
I believe that just as God provided for that widow what she needed, God too will provide for us. Every single day we need to depend on Him for strength. Our strength from the power of the Holy Spirit does not run out, because God is the great provider. God intervened in the widows life. He has intervened in our lives by giving us daily strength as we depend on Him.
“He tends his flock like a shepherd; He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.” Isaiah 40:11, italics mine
God gently leads those that have young children. He is not rough. He doesn’t expect too much of us. He knows our hearts are tender and we are using all of our energy on these little souls in our care.
As I held my third little one in my hands, I chose to rest and spend time with the Lord during that season. I let go of some expectations I had in my life. I read inspirational fiction rather than a book with a heavy topic. I chose to still feed my soul with good things, but sometimes they were a little lighter than other seasons in my life. I expected less of myself and relied more on God’s grace.
As my son was my hungriest eater, waking up many times in the night, I also had to see those times in the middle of the night as a time I could pray and draw closer to the Lord. At first I saw the nightly wake-ups as a struggle. But as time went on, I realized it was a blessing from the Lord. This was a unique time to spend with my son and with God that I would not have again. I had to just look at it at from a different perspective. “My eyes stay open through the watches of the night, that I may mediate on your promises.” Psalm 119:148 Those times at night now are precious memories of when I was able to cozy up with my son and talk to God.
To say that I am still overwhelmed most days is true. My youngest is now nearing two. I’ve had to learn to navigate life a little differently and change quite a bit in these past few years. However, God’s the one that has done the changing inside of me. “Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” Philippians 1:6 He is the one that does the work, and as we submit to Him, He continues to give us what we need each day. He will provide everything we need. Rest and trust in Him.
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