Marriage is a beautiful thing. The intimate bond that you and your husband share is like no other relationship you will ever have. The longer you are married the more you grow to learn about not only your husband, but also yourself. Marriage helps you to see all the good and the not so good things about yourselves. In the beginning of your marriage, I know it was so easy to look at the good things and overlook some of your shortcomings. Then over time, as the storms of life occur and you start to have children, you started to focus less on your strengths and it shifts more to your shortcomings. Then when you add the unlimited amount of ‘perfect’ pictures out there of other wives and families on social media, it becomes so much easier to focus on your own flaws.
You can often go from looking at the bright side of things and celebrating all the wonderful things you know about yourself, to seeing only the areas you need to improve. Then over time you started to apologize for being you. You apologize for not being the wife you think your husband deserves. You apologize for not being the mother you believe your children deserve. Then you start to apologize to yourself for not being the woman you think you should be. Well, I have only one thing to say to you about all of this… STOP! You should never apologize for being you.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful, I know that full well. –Psalm 139:14
God does not make mistakes and He did not start when He created you. Your husband did not make a mistake when he asked you to be his wife. It is also no mistake that God choose you to be the mother to your kids. You are one of God’s masterpieces. You should never forget that or apologize for it.
But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, Godʼs special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. -1 Peter 2:9
God chose you. He chose you to be the woman, the wife, and the mother that you are and to live the life you live. Not to live a life apologetically, but to live a full and abundant life emitting His wonderful light everywhere you go.
Knowing that you are not perfect, yet working daily to better yourself, improve your marriages, and to be more Christ-like. And for that, there is no apology necessary.
Ayanna is a stay at home wife and mom of 3 little divas-in-training, two of which are identical twins. She is saved by grace, and believes her faith and belief in Jesus keeps her grounded and gives her strength. She loves to use her life and lessons learned to inspire and encourage you to live fun, joyful and abundant lives that shine like Stars. You can find more of her writings over at her blog www.21flavorsofsplendor.com, and connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and Pinterest.